- Started by E on Mar 21, 2023
I am a 5 month boy and I think I have had untreated PND since the beginning.
I had a tough birth and struggled greatly with breastfeeding only making it to three months and felt like a totally failure.
I am embarrassed at how little I can do on my own with the baby. People keep suggesting baby and mother groups or meeting for coffee but I don’t feel I can do it.
I am deeply ashamed of how I let myself go at the end of the pregnancy and during the first few weeks when I couldn’t move off the couch due to c section recovery and a baby that fed round the clock. Locking myself away from the world and cancelling any plans I had seems like the best option.
My sister tells me he’s a perfect baby and I’m lucky which just makes me feel even more incompetent.
I’m drowning in it all and feel like I’m doing nothing right. I’m ruining the experience of our first child for my husband and I feel they’d be better off just the two of them without having to tip toe around me.
I have no one to turn to as my family are very much of the view get on with it and stop indulging yourself.
I don’t know how much longer I can manage.
- Started by Joan on Apr 15, 2016
I am seven months pregnant and feeling very down for the past month, up to this I have been great so looking forward to the birth of my baby. Now I am affraid to face the day, crying all the time, not sleeping andf full of anxiety.
I am affraid to tell anyone, Is this normal?
- Started by emma on Feb 16, 2023
Hi am a mother of 2,my LG was 2 in November and my little boy will be 1 at the end of the month. I have been experiencing postnatal depression since I had my little boy. I am wondering if you could point me in the right direction for a counsellor who works with ladies suffering from PND in cork? I would love for this year to be a more stable and calm year for my mental health
- Started by AnnMarie on Mar 21, 2016
I'm a Mum of two, a 16 year old and a 9 month old, each time I got PDN, each time the shame nearly crippled me. I dont know where this shame came from, and if it was simply a symptom of the PDN for me, but I know it stopped me seeking help for a long time in both cases. My experience with depression has led me to do a degree in Psychotherapy and I'm in third year presently and conducting a research project into PDN. I would be thrilled if any of you could fill this in. It is entirely anonymous and I just have a short piece to read first:
I would like to extend my sincerest gratitude in advance for taking the time to participate in this survey, providing you choose to do so. I have a personal interest in the suffering of Post Natal Depression and the link between shame and seeking treatment. As part of my research as a trainee psychotherapist, it is part of my third year criteria to conduct a research into an area of my choice.
My own personal experience of Post Natal Depression and feelings of shame associated with this, led me to choose this particular topic for my research project. In order to conduct my research I have decided to devise a questionnaire on monkey survey directed to mothers that have experienced Post Natal Depression and ask participants to lend their own personal experience to the body of my work.
These questions can potentially evoke feelings of sadness or ignite a reminder of a possibly very painful time in your life, to this end I would like to list out the relevant support services available for PDN or indeed depression of any kind. I would also like to lend my own services to counsel a participant who has been affected directly by the participation in my questionnaire. My personal contact number is 085 737 8582, please feel free to reach out to me for support. Please find below relevant support services:
With regard to confidentiality, please be aware that your identity and contribution to the study are anonymous, as is the nature of the â€˜Monkey Surveyâ€™ internet site. If for any reason you are unable to complete the survey, you have the right to withdraw. Please find the link below to complete the questionnaire.
Many thanks for your contribution to my study and I wish you the very best of luck with your own research projects.
- Started by Kayla on Nov 14, 2016
Hi, does anyone know if there are any support groups in Mayo?
- Started by Roz on Nov 14, 2018
Hi all, I’m looking to chat to mums who are recovered or going through PND PNA. I’m suffering from PNA currently although have started anti depressants and and in therapy. Genuinely can’t believe this is happening to me. I love my LG and adore spending time with her, but can’t shake the anxiety / thoughts. I know it’s something I will get through but would love to have a few friends to discuss with at this hard time x
- Started by Anonymous on Oct 25, 2022
Hi, I just found this website as Ive been googling about PND. I am a first time mum to a 10 week old baby girl. I definatly suffered with the baby blues at the start, but I'm unsure if I now have PND. I have suffered with anxiety for years, but this subsided massively when I was pregnant, but it has resurfaced since my LO was born. I worry about SIDS, her health, her skin colouring on her face, airways, digestion etc etc and my health. I have recently become easily teary over nothing at all and very irritated, but not on a daily basis. I become so easily overwhelmed daily, however. I know writing this it sounds like PND, but Im just so unsure and dont want to waste GP time if Im just over reacting. Any insight would be amazing x
- Started by Anonymous on Sep 20, 2022
I need advice.
I've a history of depression from a number of years ago.
I had my first child just as covid hit the country. I had to give up work due to childcare. I have a second who's 11m old. Recently I've been feeling overwhelmed, touched out, irritable, constantly tired. I've been making excuses for it. I have two young children. I'm busy. They don't sleep.
But it's really starting to effect me. I'm getting headaches. Crying. Shouting.
My partner works away and when he's home I don't want to be touched. I just want to be left alone. I don't even want the dog up for cuddles.
I don't know if these are just normal feelings or if it's a touch of PND. When I read the symptoms, some I tick, others are so far from it (I've no anxiety for example).
Getting an appointment with my GP is extremely difficult. The receptionist wants your life history before she'll even let you speak to the nurse, so I don't want to feel like I'm wasting their time. 🥴
Is it something I should be talking to my GP or someone about? Or is it just the reality of having young kids close together?
- Started by Anonymous on Oct 07, 2022
I’ve got a 5 month old daughter. She’s a really good baby, really cute, smiley etc. I feel a very strong sense of responsibility and a desire to get things right.
But I don’t feel that overwhelming mother love that people speak about, and I don’t feel a deep bond or connection. I feel like she’s someone else’s child that I’m looking after.
And I feel huge guilt that I don’t love her more. I’m worried she could sense this somehow and that it will damage her psychologically. I feel that she deserves to be loved in that unconditional way and to have a mother that has bonded with her.
And I feel sad for myself that I don’t have those feelings. When I was pregnant and felt apprehensive about having a baby and the lack of sleep and relentless nature of parenthood, I always expected that the deep love I would feel for my child would make it all feel worth while.
But on a day-to-day basis, I don’t feel depressed all the time, I don’t feel anxious all the time, I just have this niggling feeling of guilt.
I don’t know if this is a form of postnatal depression, or if I’m deficient as a mother, or whether the feelings will come, but slowly.
Has anyone else experienced this?
- Started by Jess on Sep 16, 2022
Can anyone help me going out my mind I have PTSD I had baby 5 weeks ago had to go back in when he was a week old I was bleeding I collapsed I had to be rushed to surgery there was bit of placenta left in I had infection in womb also I'm suffering very bad with panic attacks and anxiety never had before they put me on tablets I had to come off them I was worse I don't want to take tablets.can anyone help me please? Is there support groups in cork for it please