- Started by Lost on May 05, 2019
My boy is 10 months and I’m miserable a lot. He has never been a sleeper, although he has improved he still wakes 2-3 times a night. We had about 3 weeks of sleeping through although he still woke at 5am but then he got sick. He doesn’t eat just wakes whinging. Then he’s up for the day at 5am. Naps are a fight and he will only sleep in his pushchair. I should add aside from that he is the sweetest happiest little boy. I on the other hand am crumbling. I had my boy abroad and after a difficult birth struggled. I put it down to the blues. Before my boy arrived my father in law died and why baby was 6 months we decided to move back to Ireland. Needless to say we’ve had a lot of change and it’s taking its toll. Some days I don’t want to wake up as everything feels so hard. I have no friends, don’t go out at night and do very little for myself. I look at friends who are so chilled and I seem to spend all my time trying to put him asleep, whilst their babies sleep away. With all the stress my marriage is falling apart. My husband tries so hard but he is struggling so much too. I don’t know where to start, there are no meetings near me and I don’t feel close enough to my gp to speak to him. I love my son and do everything with him but I miss my old life and then feel guilty. My family are lovely but they just don’t get it and keep telling me to chill out.
- Started by J2019 on Apr 05, 2019
Hi just wondering if anyone else has experience like mine. I’m 13 weeks postpartum living abroad so away from family and friends. Feeling really down, emotional and even angry all the time. I’m so anxious all the time and can’t sleep properly no matter how tired I am. I love my baby but sometimes I wonder if my baby and husband would be better off without me. Everyone says use your motherly instincts but being honest sometimes I really don’t know what to do. My husband’s family have never accepted me and really made it very clear since our baby was born (it’s our first) that they only came to see the baby and my husband and were really rude to me. I’ve never done anything bad to them but it hurts now more than ever not that they don’t like but that they’ll never accept me. They’ve done some nasty things to me regarding our wedding beforehand and I really thought all this would be a fresh start if that makes sense? I feel terrible cause this upsets me so much more since I gave birth and it effects my husband. I finally went to my gp when I realised my feelings were not clearing up after a few weeks, she told me it’s common and sometimes due to hormonal changes. What can I do to treat this? She referred me to a psychologist so I can have someone to confide in and it helps a bit. I just feel so shitty and guilty cause I know there are so many people who are in horrible situations with terrible problems. I’m due to go back to work but I just can’t cope with it, I have to go see the company dr and I’m so nervous that yet again another person will judge me and think I’m so ungrateful for what I have and force me to go back to work. I can barely cope with being a mother
- Started by Cathy on Mar 07, 2019
My baby is 3 months and I love her to bits but I cant believe how hard it is being a first time Mum. I am so anxious all the time feel I haven't slept for weeks. I am so lonely, thought minding a baby be easy, all my friends are working, no family close bye.She isnt a great feeder so seems to take for ever, think I worst Mum in world, please tell me it will get better?
- Started by Ali on Jan 10, 2019
Hi, I've been suffering with PND since my LG was born, in fact truth be told I think I've been suffering since the birth of my first LG. My daughter is now a year old and I've been out of work due to the PND and stress for 5 months. Although the company doctor agrees with my doctor that I am not ready to return, my employers insurance company says I am and has even provided a date for when I have to return. I haven't slept since I was told this and I'm not sure I can cope with it at the moment. Has anyone else experienced this?
- Started by GC on Jan 28, 2019
Any one else experience impulsive bouts of anger post partum that were out of the blue and you didnt know why? almost impulsive.
- Started by Roz on Nov 14, 2018
Hi all, I’m looking to chat to mums who are recovered or going through PND PNA. I’m suffering from PNA currently although have started anti depressants and and in therapy. Genuinely can’t believe this is happening to me. I love my LG and adore spending time with her, but can’t shake the anxiety / thoughts. I know it’s something I will get through but would love to have a few friends to discuss with at this hard time x
- Started by PND Dublin on Dec 11, 2018
I’m a Mum of a two year old little boy and I think I have been struggling with post natal depression for a long time. I am coming out of the other side however pregnant now and terrified of it getting worse. How I’ve suffered is by losing all sense of self and confidence, I know I’m a good Mum but I have left everything else’s in my life completely slip.
I know there are monthly meet ups in Cork, but I’d love to know are there any mums in the dublin area. A support groups would be amazing as a first step to getting out of my new shell in a safe place.
In the meantime - lucky Cork ;)
- Started by Sue on Nov 15, 2018
My baby is 3 months old and I been diagnoised with Postnatal depression a month ago, wasnt sleeping or eating full of anxiety. Felt so guilty that I not proper Mum, this not what book says. Took a lot of courage to go to GP, on meds since but they not the miracle I thought now I do get odd good days followed by really bad days. Please tell me it will end, I seem to be lost not the old me so unsure of myself, the day seems so long and affraid to tell people how bad I am.
- Started by Anonymous on Sep 16, 2018
Hi, thanks for taking the time to read and respond to me.
I’ve a 12 week old baby who is really good. I’m blessed really. I have 3 other children. One of them is a toddler.
Over the last three or four weeks I’m struggling with my feelings. I’m letting them take over and they are keeping me awake at night. I’m distracting myself by doing house work. My feeling are that my family treat me different than other siblings. They didn’t visit me often when baby was born but they visit other family members. My dad criticizes my decisions and how my other half works. He thinks my husband should be doing more but he is away early in the morning and back late working so I can be a SAHM.
I’m comparing myself to my other sisters and brothers and I feel my parents have favorites and me and my family are low on the list. This normally doesn’t bother me but it is now. I could be in the car and I just start crying about it, I could be in the shower and I just cry. I love my family but feel they don’t support me or treat me the same as others.
This has always been the case but it’s hurting me now.
These thoughts are taking over. I feel like I’m thinking of it every time I have time to think and I’m crying a few times a day. I try snap out of it and think today will be good and then it’s not, something might happen or I starting thinking about it and feel so upset and alone.
I hope I’m not like this to my children. I pour every once of love I have into my children.
I’m hoping it passes soon. Some days I think I should just sit my parents down and say everything but I don’t want it to be turned on me saying I’m just jealous. They have a way of twisting things and making you feel guilty.
I don’t know what to do.