- Started by Anonymous on Nov 18, 2023
I had my first baby 18 weeks ago. She is doing great, happy and healthy. I should be too. But I find i am either extremely happy and laughing or down and wishing I wasnt here. I would never actually do anything as I know I dont want to leave my baby alone. But i keep thinking how everyone elses life would be easier if we didn't exist. Her father abandoned me at 7 months as he had his own issues to deal with. We got back on contact after her birth but I have recently gone no contact as I think the flip flopping on how he says he feels too much to handle. He is not from Ireland and has no opportunity to come here due to visas at the moment. I also dont speak the same language as his family so contact there is limited. Within my own family I just feel like a burden. I am living in the family home in a box room with my baby. At 30+ years of age I am ashamed of the situation I have got myself in. I should of been smarter and prevented pregnancy. Financially I am relying on my own savings and government assistance but that makes me feel even moreso as a burden. I know I am stressed and due to feeling stuck I am sad. But it also feels like more than just being down due to my circumstances, i truely just think everyone bar my baby would be better off if i didnt exist or at the very least never got pregnant
- Started by Anon on Oct 13, 2023
I'm really confused by how I am feeling. I had 2 babies back to back and my second was premature by 2 months, followed by a long NICU stay which left me severely rundown.
I'm being treated by therapists and offered medication. However no one has actually said the term PND. Reason I'm confused is because I have only a very small circle outside all this and no one has ever mentioned the possibility of me having it. Instead they are sick of my up and down feelings and tell me I will regret missing out because I'm always so full of anxiety, panic and sadness.
I feel quite distant from my baby also. Given he arrived early, it was quite a traumatic lead up to the birth and I also didn't get to hold him until some time later. Following the birth I just went into survival mode and not sure I've fully come out of it.
I tried talking to my husband and even broke down but he shut me down and in a roundabout way told me I was being ridiculous. As a result, I never uttered a word about it again and now I just shut down when it gets too much (which in turn causes conflict between us now).
Reason I'm confused is because I hear "these are all normal feelings" so much. Yet none of this feels normal to me.
Not sure I need to hear the words PND and know I am not going insane but the fact my circle just see me as constantly moody and a nightmare to be around upsets me so much. I genuinely feel absolutely no one understands.
I'm being treated as though it is PND but they haven't actually said it to me so is it that. I'm just so confused and feel so lonely.
- Started by Anonymous on Jul 13, 2023
Hi, wondering if anyone else on sertraline anti depressants? How long did it take for them to work?
I’m 2 weeks in today and still having major anxiety. It’s usually manageable when my partner is off but then it’s crippling me when he has to go to work. I’m really struggling and not sure whether I just need to give it time or whether I need to change medication. Thanks
- Started by Helen on Sep 10, 2023
Hi.
I have a 12 week old and still really suffering and struggling with mental health. Looking for people to recommend groups to attend to meet and chat with new mothers to help me.
Thanks
- Started by Anonymous on Aug 26, 2023
Desperately struggling with baby with silent reflux. Impossible some days to get her to eat because of discomfort and little I can do to help her. I feel so worried about what might happen. No one I can talk to. Husband thinks I'm overreacting being so worried (and I do have major anxiety) so I can't express my feelings to him because it just causes endless arguments. Felt like a failure since the beginning due to failure to breast feed and gotten worse sense then. I feel so alone. Even when I asked my gp to refer me to mental health support in maternity hospital I got lost in a pile of paperwork for a month with no one reaching out to help me, and feels like I've spiralled in that month. I just want someone to listen to me and validate my feelings but I feel so alone. Some days I feel like it's hard to breathe because I'm so anxious. I know this will pass in time but right now it's so hard
- Started by Anonymous on Aug 26, 2023
Hi I’m a mother of 2. A toddler (2.5) and a newborn of 2 months. My husband had to leave for work so he is out of country and I’m alone in ireland with no other family members or friends . I’m on my maternity leave but i could not travel with him as passport office has not issued my newborns passport even though i applied immediately after his birth. It’s taking ages. I’m breastfeeding. I was doing fine but lately my husband was so busy at work we couldn’t talk properly. He is always tired in the evening and slept during our calls. These days i feel so down most of the days i cry and get angry for no reason . I get irritable with kids they keep on crying or wants to play with me but i don’t respond to them. I make a to do list everyday but can’t do it. I am frustrated and angry with my husband that he left us here. Although i know it’s not his fault that passport office is taking that long to issue a newborn’s passport. I feel like no one understands my feelings or my situation. I just want my husband to understand and say some encouraging words to me but he is not good with words or expressing feelings. This makes everything worse there is no one i can talk to. I’m having my first period after childbirth and feeling awful but there is one i can lean on. If i share something with my husband he just says i need to be strong and be there for kids.i have stopped taking his calls now making my relationship worse. I just keep on crying most of time and keep having thoughts of just isolating myself switch off my phone and just lock myself at home. I feel like no one cares how i feel. Could it all be post natal depression? Should i talk to my GP?
- Started by Anonymous on Jul 14, 2023
3 week old baby girl. Really struggled this week partner went back to work. We are arguing more and Really find things difficult between us. He went to his home house tonight now and things are just so hard. I cry to much and Really struggling mentally. Need support services
- Started by E on Mar 21, 2023
I am a 5 month boy and I think I have had untreated PND since the beginning.
I had a tough birth and struggled greatly with breastfeeding only making it to three months and felt like a totally failure.
I am embarrassed at how little I can do on my own with the baby. People keep suggesting baby and mother groups or meeting for coffee but I don’t feel I can do it.
I am deeply ashamed of how I let myself go at the end of the pregnancy and during the first few weeks when I couldn’t move off the couch due to c section recovery and a baby that fed round the clock. Locking myself away from the world and cancelling any plans I had seems like the best option.
My sister tells me he’s a perfect baby and I’m lucky which just makes me feel even more incompetent.
I’m drowning in it all and feel like I’m doing nothing right. I’m ruining the experience of our first child for my husband and I feel they’d be better off just the two of them without having to tip toe around me.
I have no one to turn to as my family are very much of the view get on with it and stop indulging yourself.
I don’t know how much longer I can manage.
- Started by emma on Feb 16, 2023
Hi am a mother of 2,my LG was 2 in November and my little boy will be 1 at the end of the month. I have been experiencing postnatal depression since I had my little boy. I am wondering if you could point me in the right direction for a counsellor who works with ladies suffering from PND in cork? I would love for this year to be a more stable and calm year for my mental health
- Started by Kayla on Nov 14, 2016
Hi, does anyone know if there are any support groups in Mayo?