- Started by Ciara on May 04, 2016
Hi all, I just have a question. I struggled with depression for years on and off but I thought I'd really recovered and had been happy for about 2 years. I then got pregnant and I just wouldn't let myself get down about things because I felt guilty that my negative thoughts would damage the baby. I had a beautiful baby girl 7 mths ago and I'd do anything for her. I have kept strong, remained extremely calm but since I had to return to work 6 weeks ago I don't feel like I'm coping. I'm exhausted, my husband isn't as hands on as I thought he would be so I'm still her primary care giver. It's almost as though I'm a single parent, I do everything myself; everything with the baby, every night feed, the cooking and cleaning of the house and now I've a 50hr stressful week to deal with. I know I've been bottling up how much I'm not ok but I just feel tonight that if I started crying I really wouldn't stop. I feel I've left my daughter down so much, I'm not getting on with her dad, I don't think we will be together much longer and I feel I've failed her. I hate my job and feel I'm missing out on my baby but know if we split up I have to have an income to support us. It's like I'm trapped? Does this happen all new mums? I know I can't continue this way and that something has gotta give but I don't know where to start.
- Started by Dee on Apr 30, 2016
I have been suffering from pnd now for almost 9 months now. Been on seroxate for 6months. I am finding it very hard. I can get up and go to work but find it hard to get a handle on intrusive negative thoughts. I just feel like it will never end. Has anyone else had this experience. I am getting soooo frustrated. Would love dome insight from others. Thank you
- Started by Marie on Apr 05, 2016
I was so excited when I discovered I was pregnant, read lods of maternity books and thought I totally prepared. I always have been independant and self assured and I end up with PND, I just could not believe it. I pretended everything was perfect (putting myself under so much pressure) the only one that I confided in was my husband. I am 3 months down the road and have so many up and down days. Feel I not a proper Mum and wonder will I ever get better.
- Started by AnnMarie on Mar 21, 2016
I'm a Mum of two, a 16 year old and a 9 month old, each time I got PDN, each time the shame nearly crippled me. I dont know where this shame came from, and if it was simply a symptom of the PDN for me, but I know it stopped me seeking help for a long time in both cases. My experience with depression has led me to do a degree in Psychotherapy and I'm in third year presently and conducting a research project into PDN. I would be thrilled if any of you could fill this in. It is entirely anonymous and I just have a short piece to read first:
I would like to extend my sincerest gratitude in advance for taking the time to participate in this survey, providing you choose to do so. I have a personal interest in the suffering of Post Natal Depression and the link between shame and seeking treatment. As part of my research as a trainee psychotherapist, it is part of my third year criteria to conduct a research into an area of my choice.
My own personal experience of Post Natal Depression and feelings of shame associated with this, led me to choose this particular topic for my research project. In order to conduct my research I have decided to devise a questionnaire on monkey survey directed to mothers that have experienced Post Natal Depression and ask participants to lend their own personal experience to the body of my work.
These questions can potentially evoke feelings of sadness or ignite a reminder of a possibly very painful time in your life, to this end I would like to list out the relevant support services available for PDN or indeed depression of any kind. I would also like to lend my own services to counsel a participant who has been affected directly by the participation in my questionnaire. My personal contact number is 085 737 8582, please feel free to reach out to me for support. Please find below relevant support services:
With regard to confidentiality, please be aware that your identity and contribution to the study are anonymous, as is the nature of the â€˜Monkey Surveyâ€™ internet site. If for any reason you are unable to complete the survey, you have the right to withdraw. Please find the link below to complete the questionnaire.
Many thanks for your contribution to my study and I wish you the very best of luck with your own research projects.
- Started by Gill on Mar 23, 2016
I couldnt wait to be pregnant and have a baby to make our life complete. Why did no one tell me how difficult it was going to be. I am exhausted all the time and really dont feel like I have bonded with my baby, I am affraid to tell anyone. What should I do?
- Started by Karen on Apr 15, 2016
Just a bit of advice please. My baby is 6 months old. I feel like he has just had issue after issue. Problems feeding on the breast which I fought through for 4 months to exclusively feed him with low weight gain. Severe colic until 12 weeks old which was hell on earth, then eczema which we think may be dairy related. Put him on a special formula which he hates so I fight through every feed with him which is exhausting. Now to add to it all he is waking 4 times a night. I was fine for the first 4 months but the last 2 months it has just all got on top of me. Once my baby is doing well and in good form I'm totally fine but when he goes through a day of not feeding or has a big eczema flare up I cannot cope anymore. I feel like I just can't win and in angry that it's all so hard. The phn said she doesn't think it's PND as most of the time I'm ok but I really don't know what to do about it all. I never thought having a baby would be so hard
- Started by Kellie on Apr 15, 2016
Hey everyone, looking for a bit of help/advice from anyone who has gone through Post Natal Depression. I had my baby 5 months ago, everything from my pregnancy to birth was a breeze. Yet in the last few months I have been suffering terribly from Post Natal Depression. I feel so lost and alone, even though I have so much support around me. My partner contacted a doctor/public health nurse months ago at the 1st sign that there was something wrong, but I wouldn't attend as I didn't want to believe anything was wrong. Myself and my partner began to fight an awful lot, I became controlling, jealous, angry, anxious, insecure, the list goes on, to the point where he couldn't take it any longer and left. Now I feel so much more alone. It's killing the both of us to be apart. I have made an appointment with a doctor and I cannot wait to go. How long does it take to start feeling better? I need to get my relationship and family back if it's not too late. It's a horrible illness and my heart goes out to anybody else feeling this way x
- Started by Jenny on Dec 21, 2015
Jenny Thank you so much for your kind words. I so agree with you about needing more support groups, they are so vital to be able to share with other women that have been in the same situation.
- Started by Maria on Sep 22, 2016
I have postnatal depression, have been to GP and on a load of tablets and dont feel any better. I dont know what to do and affraid that I will get addicted. Cant believe I feel so terrible didnt think this could happen after having a baby.