- Started by Emma on Apr 15, 2016
We had an unplanned pregnancy when I was in the last 3 months of my masters degree. I was never diagnosed, because being at uni in another county meant I was never able to get to my GP, but I believe I had ante and now post natal depression. I've had depression throughout my life so I know what it is. Now I'm in a job I hate and had to take to facilitate life with a baby. She's 19 months and the best thing ever. But I'm empty. I feel shortchanged for having to give up the life I was so close to having after the degree (was not able to pursue a career in what I studied due to the nature of the industry, media- lack of stability starting out) and am now stuck with paying off college fees for the next 5 years. We can't save for a house or afford to get engaged. And I feel I've shortchanged her because I wasn't ready to be a parent, and I'm not a great example because I messed up and didn't succeed. And I wasn't strong enough to persevere and make my own career despite of it all. I'm a completely different person to who I was before I got pregnant and I don't like who I am now. And that's the version of me she's getting and I hate that. I'm also not being good enough for my partner, and we have pretty much shut ourselves off from each other and are more like room mates. It's gotten to a point where I can't keep doing any of it, and I need to fix it so we can all be happy and live the lives we deserve. I just don't know how to go about doing it exactly. I eat well, exercise, journal, but nothing has helped so far. I have been on medication before and I don't like it, so would not be willing to go there again. I also have pretty bad physical issues since having her, and may need surgery on my hip/pelvis. So constant pain and discomfort isn't helping either. Anyone have a similar experience, or advise?
- Started by on Aug 28, 2015
I don't think my baby loves me at all and that she blames me for her having to have an operation for pyloric stenosis and being starved for the week before it, now every time she's hungry and has to wait for her bottle to cool down its like she thinks I'm going to starve her again.... She always cries and gives out when I have her but is fine when someone else holds her.. We used to be so in love and now it's like she can't stand me.....I just find it so upsetting and wish she would like me so I can love her properly
- Started by Liz on Aug 28, 2015
You sound so like me I thought it was going to be so easy as I thought I knew it all from the first time, but no it wasnt easy trying to mind 2 babies and trying to breast feed, the older one always seemed to want something when I sat down to feed. This is where TV comes in handy or getting someone to take the older one off for as hour to give you a break, I am sure there are lots of people you can ask.
The first few months are really hard going so any support you are offered take it. You are doing brillant to have BF for 2 months you have given your little girl a great start.
You dont have to struggle in silence, talk to your GP your Public Health Nurse they are there to help.
Very important to try to get some exercise for yourself, even a short walk will stand to you.
- Started by Katie on Aug 11, 2015
Hi Katie, oh I remember it well and it will go away, try to stay posotive (which I know is so hard) go out for a walk, just get out of the house, wallowing will not help. It is hard to get over the last bit, I think we get very impatient at the end and just want it gone. Keep talking it really helps. I found keeping a mood diary really helped to keep my confidence going. One day at a time and you will get there.
- Started by Tina on Jul 23, 2015
Been diagnoised with PND 2 months ago, I have no family close by, feel so lonely and isolated, being in the house on my own really upsets and stresses me. I havent told my partner as he under enough pressure. Is this normal?
- Started by Jane on Sep 29, 2015
I had PND after my first baby, it took me over 6 months to recover. I was affraid to have another baby in case it came back. Three years down the road I am pregnant again, I am trying to be posotive but of course am so affraid it will come back.
Have any of you been in this position and have ye any advice?
- Started by Jackie on Jun 24, 2015
I was diagnoised with PND 2 months ago, finding it hard to come to terms with it, I was always so self assured and independant, cant believe this happened to me. Really have an issue with going on medication but feel coming under pressure from my family and Doctor. Where I am now I find it so hard to make decissions (not one bit like me) can I do this myself if I have good support??
- Started by Nicole on Dec 17, 2015
Nicole, you poor woman! I was almost in tears reading your post. I see you posted this 6 months and 3 weeks ago! How are you doing now? I really hope things have improved. I lived in Saudi Arabia for 7 years and when I moved to Irelans it was a MASSIVE shock to the system and I was a child back then and no kids (obviously). I can't being to imagine what you were feeling and going through. If you read this, I would love to know how you are doing and if you want to chat about anything I am here for that. I feel like us Mums who have or had PND are good for each other and that is the best support. No one like someone who has had the experience. Hope to see an update from you soon.
- Started by Jenny on May 26, 2015
I have PND for the last 3 months and am obsessed with my own health and the babies. The anxiety is awfull and to make things worse have had a few panic attacks. I am on antidepressants but I dont seem to be getting any better, every day feels like a week. I worry all the time about the baby and have a path worn to the doctor. I am not sleeping and keep thinking there is something wrong with me medically.
- Started by shaza123 on May 06, 2015
Hi. On.lexapro for several months. 10 mg. Some improvement in anxiety but ongoing sleepiness especially in the.mornings ; finking it v hard to get up even after 10 hrs sleep. Very vivid dreams too which are often v high anxiety focused. Craving sleep all day. Any advice?