- Started by Jill on Oct 03, 2018
Hello, I am undertaking a research study in Trinity College Dublin and would like to speak to dads whose partner has experienced mental health issues (such as anxiety and postnatal depression) after the birth of a baby. If you think your partner would be willing to speak to me about their experience please feel free to pass on my details to them and they can contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org or text/call 087 0629892. Thank you.
- Started by Anonymous on Sep 16, 2018
Hi, thanks for taking the time to read and respond to me.
I’ve a 12 week old baby who is really good. I’m blessed really. I have 3 other children. One of them is a toddler.
Over the last three or four weeks I’m struggling with my feelings. I’m letting them take over and they are keeping me awake at night. I’m distracting myself by doing house work. My feeling are that my family treat me different than other siblings. They didn’t visit me often when baby was born but they visit other family members. My dad criticizes my decisions and how my other half works. He thinks my husband should be doing more but he is away early in the morning and back late working so I can be a SAHM.
I’m comparing myself to my other sisters and brothers and I feel my parents have favorites and me and my family are low on the list. This normally doesn’t bother me but it is now. I could be in the car and I just start crying about it, I could be in the shower and I just cry. I love my family but feel they don’t support me or treat me the same as others.
This has always been the case but it’s hurting me now.
These thoughts are taking over. I feel like I’m thinking of it every time I have time to think and I’m crying a few times a day. I try snap out of it and think today will be good and then it’s not, something might happen or I starting thinking about it and feel so upset and alone.
I hope I’m not like this to my children. I pour every once of love I have into my children.
I’m hoping it passes soon. Some days I think I should just sit my parents down and say everything but I don’t want it to be turned on me saying I’m just jealous. They have a way of twisting things and making you feel guilty.
I don’t know what to do.
- Started by Joan on Jan 27, 2015
Its my second child and I was so looking forward to his arrival and I end up with Postnatal Depression. He is four months old and the happiest little fellow only cries to be fed. I feel so terrible so anxious, cant eat or sleep, now I feel guilty as I shouldnt have this as my baby so good.
found it hard to go to GP and admit that something was wrong, I am on medication but still finding it really hard. The days are so long and I feel so down all the time, I really try to pretend that I am ok when anyone is around but pay for it afterwards. Please somone tell me it will go away, I am missing out on so much.
- Started by Ciara on Aug 20, 2018
I just feel so miserable. I have two kids under two and just feel like I’m drowning. Every day that I know I’m going to be on my own with them all day I feel like I’m drowning, suffocating and I dread it. I feel like I’ve lost my identity and I don’t feel like a person anymore. We are moving house at the minute after living with my sister for a while and my partner thinks I’m just stressed over that and is dismissing my thoughts that I may be suffering with post natal depression. I feel I can’t cope with anything right now, the slightest thing sets me off. I don’t know if I’m just stressed or overreacting but I don’t know what to do. I suppose I’m just ranting but any advice would be appreciated.
- Started by Anonymous on Aug 20, 2018
Please help I have been in an unhappy marriage for a while now think I knew years ago it would not work out but really only admitting it now alot of stuff has kept us together like house family illness etc and don't get me wrong when things are good they are brilliant but when they are bad I can't do it anymore I have 2 beautiful daughters who I love more than life itself but it feels like a constant struggle to get anything done around the house with them I am snapping at my 2 year old all the time and not able to cope when my baby 5 months is out of sorts my husband says it's just post natal depression but he is not listening to how unhappy I am with everything else in life don't think I could bear it be on medication and have him make me feel like a worse mother terrified of going to gp also don't even know how to explain it
- Started by Anonymous on Jul 28, 2018
I look at old photos of me and it's like a different person. I'm beaming, bubbly and happy, in every single one. I can't remember the last time i felt like that. I've been struggling for 2 years now, and when I last posted here, one reply suggested I wasn't doing enough to help myself and need to get out more. But going anywhere is now a chore. I cry at the drop of the hat, and get really irritable with my kids. My eldest knew a completely different mammy, than the mammy my youngest has grown up with the last couple of years. I can feel myself putting on a front each time i'm around my parents and other family. I don't even know what to say to my doctor if i go, i dont want to sound like i'm looking for attention or pity. I have had thoughts of not so pleasant things once or twice, but know it would never come to that as i'd never leave my kids, but even having those thoughts scares me. My husband can be great, but i can tell he thinks i'm just miserable these days and he misses how i was too. I can't imagine needing medication for this, i keep thinking i can get a handle on it, but i just feel like i've lost who i am, lost my spark. In our recent holiday pics, my eyes look dead or something, i cant even explain it. I just needed a rant on a bad day x
- Started by Anonymous on Aug 07, 2018
Hi I am a new mum and have just been diagnosed with post natal depression. My anxiety is so bad I have completely lost my appetite and feel like a different person. I constantly have a pain and tightness in my chest that won’t go away. I would really appreciate any advice especially from anyone that has been through this. Is there a helpline?
- Started by Amy on Jun 23, 2018
Kinda nervous to post this but here it goes, I know I will be met with support and understanding from you all. I think I might have postnatal depression but I don’t know.
Lately I’ve been feeling really strange. My Mom is currently battling cancer and it all kicked off really abruptly with her being healthy enough and then one day ended up in ICU on a ventilator after her bowel ruptured. They then found a tumour and she now has a ileostomy bag and has lost her hair and so much weight. It’s been so quick and painful for me to watch as she is my best friend and we have no answer about how long she will live. My dad also suffers with depression and has dystonia so I have this sense of guilt when I go home to my house and leave them there. I’m all day every day thinking about my mom and just waiting for more bad news. I’m really struggling with it.
I recently started back at work and have been offered a promotion since I returned which is great but I just feel like I’m on autopilot, I don’t relate to any of the girls I work with and feel like they don’t like me every much. I just feel like I can’t be myself around them and I come off cold. It’s like I’m overthinking every situation working along side them and I’ve lost all social capability, which is very strange for me.
I don’t feel suicidal at all, like my daughter and husband are my life, I love them so much and they make me so happy but I feel like I’m having an out of body experience all the time. I feel like I can’t be affectionate to my husband as I don’t feel attractive since having my baby and I know it hurts him that I’m like this.
I’m eating crap too, just not filling my body with the fuel I need but I just feel so bloody miserable and lost!
I know I should go to my GP and get help in some way but I honestly can’t afford the €65 visit and I know she will suggest counseling but I can’t afford it. I also don’t want to go on medication. I’m just wondering will this feeling lift, will of get worse? I’m just scared I’m losing who I am and becoming a shell of my former self. Help!
- Started by Babymomma on Feb 04, 2018
Hello ladies, I'm just here to have a rant I suppose! So I had my baby 12 weeks ago and my other half has a 5 year old son with his ex. Well I know how silly this is gonna sound but he got her flowers after she had his first son and I was promised I would get beautiful flowers too cos it's something that I kinda became slightly obsessed about. Anyway I had a great labour and I got my amazing beautiful baby boy...but no flowers! He explained he had no money which I understand given his job barely pays the bills but my argument is that he had my card and I obviously wouldn't have even noticed 20 quid gone for them. It's made me feel so worthless and completely not good enough compared, even though I know it's me he wants but I just can't shift it. He doesn't get how he made me feel like he had money to go out for dinner with his friend the night I had the baby. I don't really know what I'm looking for here but I can't get over how this has made me feel and I haven't cried for nearly 3 weeks and now I'm crying over this. He can't fix it now so how do we get passed it? With Valentine's coming up I know he's going to get me flowers that will just cause an argument. I'd love to tell him what he can do but I know I'll never ever forgive him.
- Started by Michelle on Jul 06, 2018
Ok I don’t know where to start!!! I don’t know if I’m depressed or just failing as a mother and a wife!!!!
I have 3 beautiful boys, 4 year old, 18 month old and 17 day old. I love them to no end.
After my first I’ve suffered with doubly incontinent (which I manage myself) and 2 further sections!!!
Things that have been said to me by my mother in law especially stick in my head!!! With my first (who suffered awful colic hence the gap) I was told he when he was crying “he didn’t need me”!!! With my second, my inlaws arrived and my husband had to bring them home so I insisted he stayed the night and had a night out (st Stephens night) with his friends. I was questioned about my ability to “cope”!!! With my third she told me I wouldn’t “manage” if my husband and eldest son went to a match for a day when this baby was 12 days old!!!! Not to mind that was after housing and bedding and feeding all 10 of them for 2 days!!!
I can’t look at myself in the mirror!!! I have a section wound infection and it’s slightly open, it smells and I feel like everyone can smell it!!!!! I’m still so sore, obviously from infection and the weekend catching up on me. I then got asked by my mother in law what day we would b up at the weekend!!! I’m nit a machine, I have no replacement batteries!! Not able to sit in a car for over 2 hour drive! I’m still getting to know my son and my 18month old is teething bad so when they cry I want to comfort them and not b judged on my ability to be a mother.
My husband got annoyed with me today when all I want is a hug and be listened to!! I came out of PHN (who is lovely) and told my husband that she asked if I had a shower today cuz she could smell my wound and I did, I have at least 3 a day!! I just cried and told him and he said it’s an infection and it’ll clear up!! He’s been off with me all day cuz I said I didn’t want to talk cuz I was upsetting him and making him annoyed. Went to my parents house and he said I made an issue cuz I got teary eyed when I told my mother about my wound!!! It can’t just b the wound and the comments and the doubting myself. It has to b something else and I’m so lonely. I don’t want it to affect my kids like my childhood has affected me. My 4 year old gave me the biggest hug today when I was teary eyed. I just want to b able to talk to my husband but I guess I can’t.
I don’t know what to do and I wish I could snap out of it and not sit here crying.