- Started by Michelle on Jul 06, 2018
Ok I don’t know where to start!!! I don’t know if I’m depressed or just failing as a mother and a wife!!!!
I have 3 beautiful boys, 4 year old, 18 month old and 17 day old. I love them to no end.
After my first I’ve suffered with doubly incontinent (which I manage myself) and 2 further sections!!!
Things that have been said to me by my mother in law especially stick in my head!!! With my first (who suffered awful colic hence the gap) I was told he when he was crying “he didn’t need me”!!! With my second, my inlaws arrived and my husband had to bring them home so I insisted he stayed the night and had a night out (st Stephens night) with his friends. I was questioned about my ability to “cope”!!! With my third she told me I wouldn’t “manage” if my husband and eldest son went to a match for a day when this baby was 12 days old!!!! Not to mind that was after housing and bedding and feeding all 10 of them for 2 days!!!
I can’t look at myself in the mirror!!! I have a section wound infection and it’s slightly open, it smells and I feel like everyone can smell it!!!!! I’m still so sore, obviously from infection and the weekend catching up on me. I then got asked by my mother in law what day we would b up at the weekend!!! I’m nit a machine, I have no replacement batteries!! Not able to sit in a car for over 2 hour drive! I’m still getting to know my son and my 18month old is teething bad so when they cry I want to comfort them and not b judged on my ability to be a mother.
My husband got annoyed with me today when all I want is a hug and be listened to!! I came out of PHN (who is lovely) and told my husband that she asked if I had a shower today cuz she could smell my wound and I did, I have at least 3 a day!! I just cried and told him and he said it’s an infection and it’ll clear up!! He’s been off with me all day cuz I said I didn’t want to talk cuz I was upsetting him and making him annoyed. Went to my parents house and he said I made an issue cuz I got teary eyed when I told my mother about my wound!!! It can’t just b the wound and the comments and the doubting myself. It has to b something else and I’m so lonely. I don’t want it to affect my kids like my childhood has affected me. My 4 year old gave me the biggest hug today when I was teary eyed. I just want to b able to talk to my husband but I guess I can’t.
I don’t know what to do and I wish I could snap out of it and not sit here crying.
- Started by Michelle on Jun 18, 2018
Hi everyone, I really don’t know what’s wrong with me if it’s pnd or something else, my son is nearly 9 months old and on and off I fell terrible , so sad unhappy I get upset so easily.. I was putting it down to pms symptoms because I generally feel worse around this time...lately though everyone is overwhelming me, I’m due back to work in 2 weeks and the thought of that along with leaving my son and being able to do it all has me in bits, I feel like I can’t cope with it all and that I can’t properly care for my son , Whenever my husband is around I just leave as I feel he’s better off with him and not me, what should I do?? Is this normal stress just before going back to work?
- Started by Anonymous on Jun 05, 2018
Hi there, can someone please tell me if what I'm feeling sounds like PND? Some days are great, really great but then other days I just want to curl up in bed and cry all day long. I have a 2 year old and a 5 month old and some days I really struggle, today being one of those days. I feel like I'm being very short with my 2 year old, very easily irritated and then I feel so guilty and cry. Thinking about going to the gp tomorrow to talk to her but I'm quite anxious about speaking to someone because I know I'm going to burst into tears while talking about it. Any advice would be very much appreciated
- Started by Anonymous on Jun 07, 2017
please can someone please reassure me that this will go away. so so tired fighting
- Started by Anonymous on Mar 20, 2018
I am 7 months post partum and in complete denial that I am having post partum depression. But tonight I acknowledge it and I seriously need help. Some days I am just angry that I feel like I am going to burst. It's been affecting my marriage and I feel like a bad mother to our oldest daughter because I am constantly snapping at her. Backstory - My partner is Irish and we had to rush moving to Ireland whilst I was pregnant because of my inconsiderate sister in law who wanted to get married soon so we had to rush everything. I was in major stress organising our big move from one country to another. I felt great the early stages of my pregnancy and I just felt miserable and had a hard time coping the last few months of my pregnancy upto now that I am seven months post partum. I need help. Is there a support group I can go in Cavan town? Thank you.
- Started by Lost&lonely on Jan 17, 2018
I have a beautiful baby girl who is 5 months old, I had a difficult pregnancy & a labour/delivery. Throughout pregnancy my goal was to have everything I needed. No one prepared me for the full aches I carry everyday. I'm. I'm normally a strong person but I'm under so much pressure as a single parent & I feel like I'm suffocating. I did mention PND to my doctor but she said she would put me on medication. That would kill any pride I have left in myself. I really need help but I'm afraid of being labelled & I don't want pity. I don't know where to turn. I want to be happy & myself again but I don't know how. I feel like I have lost time with my beautiful daughter. Please help
- Started by anon on Jan 04, 2018
my wife and i have a 15 month old baby. Prior to having her we used to fight sometimes but not all the time either. my wife had a very tough labour which was 36 hours long followed by some other complications. anyway home we came happy out. During the first 5/6 weeks everything was fine. We had a fight around this time where my wife told me she is feeling sad and lonely and wants to leave. I ignored this and assumed everything would be ok, or just fix itself. The last month or so i noticed my wife was unhappy. since it was coming up to christmas i didnt want to confront it. Everything changed during christmas when she announced to me that our marriage was over, She was unhappy, felt lonely, so much so that she cried at night and couldnt sleep either. i am in complete shock. Her family are supporting her decision . She is really good with our daughter and is a great mum. I on the other hand am fighting hard to try keep her but at this moment she says its over and there is no more i can do. I have given her some space at home and stayed away for a few nights. She wont talk to me and i feel there is nothing i can do. I have suggested counselling for both of us, or seperate but she refuses saying she does not want to fix things between us. I have not broached the subject that she might have pnd and i have no way of getting her to see her doctor either.. I'm lost.. any advice ? i am getting no help from her family who seem to think i am the root of all her unhappiness. we have been very happy before and i am sure we can be again. she also says she no longer loves me.
Also i know i am not a doctor so i cannot be sure she has pnd or not.
i am just very very confused and feel like the wrong move now could spell the end of my marriage
- Started by Anonymous on Dec 14, 2017
Any advice from mothers with PND and how they got through it with their partner? I've been diagnosed with PND and prescribed medication but I'm reluctant to take it. I'm waiting for my first counselling session. Im really feeling the strain on my relationship at the moment we've had a rough year and lost loved ones through in baby's arrival and now pnd we're having a stressful time. I'm tired all the time and struggling to keep up with the house and my 2 kids I'm emotional and feel like I just need a break to recentre I'm doing my best but my partner and I just seem to be fighting I don't think he understands how I feel when I try and talk to him about it he goes in to solution mode but it's not what I need. for example he's a few things on over the next 4 days and is pulled away so I'm left to manage the 2 kids alone for these 4 full days and nights. he's frustrated because he needs to go and can't see why I don't call in friends or family to come down but the plans he made are last minute and people have made plans and it's only 2 weeks before Christmas people have a lot on. Rather then understand he's frustrated with me. I am equally frustrated with him because he doesn't seem to see how hard this is on me. I feel lost and really lonely any advice on getting through this.
- Started by Kayla on Nov 14, 2016
Hi, does anyone know if there are any support groups in Mayo?
- Started by Cm on Dec 14, 2017
At first I felt all the joys of mother hood and now 10 months in I feel like something is blocking my happiness & love. I keep telling myself it’s just the tiredness but I think I’m fooling myself? I’m afraid my daughter is going to be effected because some days I can hardly raise a smile. I’m afraid to seek help as I feel like a bad mother and a failure. I’m also afraid I’ll be ‘watched’ because I’ve admitted what’s going on. All I want is my baby to be brought up in a happy loving home.