- Started by Ciara on May 04, 2016
Hi all, I just have a question. I struggled with depression for years on and off but I thought I'd really recovered and had been happy for about 2 years. I then got pregnant and I just wouldn't let myself get down about things because I felt guilty that my negative thoughts would damage the baby. I had a beautiful baby girl 7 mths ago and I'd do anything for her. I have kept strong, remained extremely calm but since I had to return to work 6 weeks ago I don't feel like I'm coping. I'm exhausted, my husband isn't as hands on as I thought he would be so I'm still her primary care giver. It's almost as though I'm a single parent, I do everything myself; everything with the baby, every night feed, the cooking and cleaning of the house and now I've a 50hr stressful week to deal with. I know I've been bottling up how much I'm not ok but I just feel tonight that if I started crying I really wouldn't stop. I feel I've left my daughter down so much, I'm not getting on with her dad, I don't think we will be together much longer and I feel I've failed her. I hate my job and feel I'm missing out on my baby but know if we split up I have to have an income to support us. It's like I'm trapped? Does this happen all new mums? I know I can't continue this way and that something has gotta give but I don't know where to start.
- Started by Dee on Apr 30, 2016
I have been suffering from pnd now for almost 9 months now. Been on seroxate for 6months. I am finding it very hard. I can get up and go to work but find it hard to get a handle on intrusive negative thoughts. I just feel like it will never end. Has anyone else had this experience. I am getting soooo frustrated. Would love dome insight from others. Thank you
- Started by Marie on Apr 05, 2016
I was so excited when I discovered I was pregnant, read lods of maternity books and thought I totally prepared. I always have been independant and self assured and I end up with PND, I just could not believe it. I pretended everything was perfect (putting myself under so much pressure) the only one that I confided in was my husband. I am 3 months down the road and have so many up and down days. Feel I not a proper Mum and wonder will I ever get better.
- Started by Gill on Mar 23, 2016
I couldnt wait to be pregnant and have a baby to make our life complete. Why did no one tell me how difficult it was going to be. I am exhausted all the time and really dont feel like I have bonded with my baby, I am affraid to tell anyone. What should I do?
- Started by Karen on Apr 15, 2016
Hi there,
Just a bit of advice please. My baby is 6 months old. I feel like he has just had issue after issue. Problems feeding on the breast which I fought through for 4 months to exclusively feed him with low weight gain. Severe colic until 12 weeks old which was hell on earth, then eczema which we think may be dairy related. Put him on a special formula which he hates so I fight through every feed with him which is exhausting. Now to add to it all he is waking 4 times a night. I was fine for the first 4 months but the last 2 months it has just all got on top of me. Once my baby is doing well and in good form I'm totally fine but when he goes through a day of not feeding or has a big eczema flare up I cannot cope anymore. I feel like I just can't win and in angry that it's all so hard. The phn said she doesn't think it's PND as most of the time I'm ok but I really don't know what to do about it all. I never thought having a baby would be so hard
- Started by Jenny on Dec 21, 2015
Jenny Thank you so much for your kind words. I so agree with you about needing more support groups, they are so vital to be able to share with other women that have been in the same situation.
- Started by Maria on Sep 22, 2016
I have postnatal depression, have been to GP and on a load of tablets and dont feel any better. I dont know what to do and affraid that I will get addicted. Cant believe I feel so terrible didnt think this could happen after having a baby.
- Started by Annie on Nov 12, 2015
Hi Annie I can relate to this but time is a great healer, have you discussed your bad experience with your Maternity Hospital? Councilling can be helpfull with a qualified councillor.
I remember after I had my first baby people were putting me under pressure to have number two. You need time to enjoy your baby.
- Started by Rosie on Oct 30, 2015
My daughter is 1 year old but I'm still suffering from low self esteem to the point where I hate even looking in the mirror. I used to be able to talk to my other but he can't cope with me anymore feeling so bad about myself. I have nobody to talk to. I want the old me back, has anyone else felt like this? And if so, did you ever get back to feeling good about yourself?