Hi I feel just pretty much like I do not exist and that I do not have my identity anymore. My 3 month old is bit skinny and has head position issues and that makes me sad and I believe I am a bad mum. I also moved to Ireland recently and lost my job so I conoletely depend on my husband financially. I feel nothing more but a housewife and not so good mother and dependent wife. Some how it looks like I am not competent for anything and I am completely a fake person, empty and hollow.
Hi Lara you are so hard on yourself, you brought a lovely baby into the world. I know things look bleek at the moment first thing have you spoken to your GP and your Public Health Nurse they are there to support you. I am so sorry that you lost your job and I know how it feels to be dependant on your husband but this is only temporary. You should also be enjoying your maternity leave, it is such a special time. So important to get out of the house make sure to go for walk every good for you and baby. I cant imagin what it must be like to move to another country where you know nobody. Is there a mother and toddler group close by it is great way to get to know other women. Remember to take one day at a time and take any offer of help is your husband good at helping with the baby, most women think they have to do it all and put themselves under pressure, ask for help..Try to look on posotives no matter how small.
Hi lara please don’t think you are a bad mom im sure you are a wonderful mom, Its so hard to find ourselves when we become new moms we become a new person but we don’t entirely loose our old selfs we just become a little bit of a different version. I am sure your little baby is under the best medival care for any issues she may have. Lara maybe you could ring and make an appointment with your GP or Public health nurse, try get out when you can for a walk or meet friend for a coffee. Please don’t suffer alone. We also do zoom meetings where you can listen to other mums who have overcome PND and moms who are going through it . We have a book available if this is something you might be interested in. I hope this has been helpful, please feel free to reach out to us here, on our social media (Postnatal Depression Ireland on Facebook and Pndireland on Instagram), or by phone on 0214922083/ 0834850689 if you need more support 💜 - Jennifer,
Thank you, you are so kind. It is always comforribg to know there are such nice people out there.