I recently had my baby girl she is now 3 months old and i have a little boy who is 1 since november. I never suffered with pnd after my little boy i was always so organized and everything was done night before myself and partner had a good relationship. Since baby 2 has arrived i just feel like im in a daze morning till night . I was fine for first few weeks and i am trying by best to put a routine of such in place for the two of them so i can get housework done and still have atleast 10 minutes so i can just sit down and breath .. my partner isnt helping much and then is saying u dont have time for us anymore u dont want to be intimate with me no more truth is i dont care anymore. I just have enough in me each morning to see to my two chikdren for the day and thats it i am starting to get irritable it seems like i just get one too sleep and the other to sleep and go start washing or housework and one wakes then they wake the other and i am lost on what i can do
Hi, going from one to two children is a huge change and your little boy is still so young. It can be very difficult to get into a routine it is still very early days. This is a massive change for you and your partner. You are doing great well done to you, trying to do housework and washing on top of everything else can be so difficult. Please don't be so hard on yourself because this is so normal. Yon cannot do everything. You are a Mum doing the best you can for your two babies and yes you are amazing Mum but you are not superwoman. It takes time to get used to new changes in our lives. If you ask any woman that have been where you are right now, they will tell you yes I was there and it is very difficult and how they found it so hard to cope. We all need help. Do you think you could tell your partner how you are feeling and maybe if he understood he could help out more. Have you spoken to anyone else to tell them how you are feeling, a family member or a friend you could talk to. You can contact your Public Health Nurse she might be able to help you or visit your GP. I am here in the office today and tomorrow if you would like to have a chat you can contact me on 021-4922083. Please leave a message if you do not get a reply and I will contact you as soon as possible. Hope to hear from you. Take care