- Started by Anonymous on Aug 09, 2019
Hi everyone, my first time posting here. I’ve just had my 2nd child 5 weeks ago and feel like I’ve cried everyday since she’s born. I’m currently breastfeeding so can’t really get much of a break from the baby. My problem is I’m really resenting my husband at the moment. He works full time and plays sport few times a week which is making me feel like I’m constantly with the kids on my own. He’s always asking other people to mind the toddler to give me a break but I feel really guilty as I already feel like I’m not giving her enough attention since her sister arrived and I recently was re admitted to hospital with mastitis for 3 nights so my toddler screams everytime I leave her side because she thinks I’m going back into hospital. I also had to leave work early as I had spd and could not walk properly. This was another reason why I felt guilty because I couldn’t leave the house on my own with my toddler months before I was due to give birth. Are these signs of pnd? Or am I just tired and feeling guilty because my first born is so young too. I’m so confused but exhausted from all the crying I’m doing. Any feedback would be great, thanks.
- Started by Roxy on Jan 01, 2017
Hi There, I am looking for some advice/insight. My waters broke at week 36, 2 days after the death of my grandfather. I was in hospital for 2 days and on Xmas day I went in to labour, I was 36.6 when the baby was born on Stephens day. The labour was great but after I had a retained placenta. The midwifes where fantastic, they tried everything to avoid me having to go to theather but I lost a lot of bloodand started fainting etc and ended up under general anesthesia to get sorted. I thought I was going to die. 18 hours after I started to feel so so sad. I came home a day after my son was born Because I thought it would help my mood. Now I am home everything in my house reminds me of when I was pregnant and I can't stop crying. I can't stop feeling sad and every night at 7 it gets worse. I dony know is it my ordeal after labour or that I feel robbed of my last 4 weeks of pregnancy but these feelings are starting to worry me. I adore my son and he is so good. But I can't help but feel he shouldn't be here yet and i feel so guilty for giving him a birthday so close to xmas.
- Started by elaine on Sep 20, 2016
Hi Elanine there is a support group in Kerry it is based in Listowel and they run Support Groups their no 086 7872107.
You can also ring PND Irl 021 4922083 they run support groups, coffee mornings, and have a help line, they also have a book called recovering from Postnatal Depression which can be ordered on the website www.pnd.ie
- Started by Grace on Oct 21, 2019
My baby is now 10 months. I didn’t recognize it at the start but I suffered from depression during the pregnancy and after. I had a traumatic birth but still adored my baby the moment I saw her. I passed off the birth trauma as no big deal and worth everything but as the months went on I became more enraged, anxious and depressed. It won’t lift. I’m doing everything but noting will help. My relationship with my husband is becoming more and more strained. He’s fed up and angry at this illness. He becomes more and more withdrawn from me when really I need his love and support but he’s fed up. Iv tried to talk to family and trusted friends but no one is taking me seriously. Iv thought about suicide many times but the thoughts of leaving my baby is too much. Someone please tell me something to help.
- Started by Anonymous on Oct 10, 2019
I don’t really know where to start with my post. The best thing to do is start at the beginning, I gave birth to the most adorable little boy nearly 12 months ago. Never suffered a day in my life with my mental health but my life was turned upside down when I brought my little bundle home. To cut a long story short, everywhere I turned there was no support groups, no coffee mornings nothing for women suffering with their post natal mental health. I was so disappointed in the system it was all big cities that had support groups.
Now thankfully that I’m doing much better, I still can’t help but feel so frustrated that there is not more help offered everywhere. I have a great doc and a great support system but no one can understand and help and comfort you as much as a person who fully understands what you are feeling, I believe this whole heartily.
So if there is anyone here that is from the above listed areas that wants to reach out and chat I would be more than happy to, start our own little coffee morning perhaps.
One day at a time ladies, it will get better xx
- Started by Anon on Sep 05, 2019
Hi everyone, I am a mam of 2 children (girl 8 and baby boy 7 months). I was diagnosed with PND when my son was 3 months and was referred to counselling and put on tablets. I was never a person to shy away from my feelings but i just put everything down to the baby blues as i did not suffer with PND with my first child. I had brought my baby in for his first lot of injections and the nurse noticed straight away there was something wrong with me. she was very kind and told me to look for help and to come back if i wanted to speak to someone. it shocked me that a practical stranger had noticed it in me but my family hadn't. the following week was a check up with the health nurse and she told me that I had PND after a quick questionnaire and asked me to go to my GP as she would be speaking to him about it. It took me a month to get myself together and realise i couldn't just ride this wave anymore, i needed to get help for the sake of my family and most importantly myself.
While the tablets have definitely put in better form from day to day, i still have good days and bad days. Counselling is wrapping up at the moment, only 1 more session left, and although I have learned a few bits about myself and given me food for thought I still feel horrifically low. My partner is doing the best he can but I just don't think he understands the extent of how much PND can effect you. I find i snap the head off him for no reason and don't have the energy to play with my daughter. And so on top of the PND comes the guilt, I feel guilty that I am not well, I feel guilty that I should be happy but for some reason I'm depressed. I am out sick from work as I was to return to work the beginning of July. The thoughts of work sets me into a panic. Which is unusual because i used to like my job, although it was stressful from time to time. I feel I cannot face work and leaving the kids and house all week. How would I get everything done and spend time with the kids and my partner without spiraling into a deeper depression? Has anyone ever felt like this and returned to work? How did it go?
Then there's guilt that the main financial responsibility is on my partners shoulders.
Please tell me I am not the only one who if after counselling and anti depressants (high dosage) and time of work still feels like crap? At this point I feel broken and won't be able to ever put the pieces back together.
- Started by CC on Oct 08, 2019
I went through a difficult birth with my daughter 10 months ago. I was induced, 17 hours of back labour which ended up with an emergency c section, post partum heamorage and blood transfusion. The first night I had to stay in acute care and couldn’t look after my baby because I was so ill so she spent her first night in the special baby’s unit. All this affected my milk supply and long story short it never came in and I never got to BF despite really wanting to. I’m now going through post natal depression and anxiety. I’m taking anti depressant and attending counseling. I’m wondering if the birth might have had an impact on the reason why I developed PND and my bond with my baby and would like to hear other mums experiences of birth trauma and PND.
- Started by Anonymous on Oct 10, 2019
After reading some of the post, I feel I should post how I have been feeling.
I had my baby boy 6 months ago and I have not felt my self since. Most days I feel irritable, sad, cross,tired and find day to day generally hard. Some times I feel becauase of my birth experience I feel I never had that moment where you make that ultimate bond with your baby. I have a wonderful husband who is very worried and has encouraged me to seek help. I feel so ashamed for how I feel and behave, it makes me uncomfortable to talk about it, depite having great support. Some days I feel good, so I tell my husband, I will go to Gp next week if I don't feel any better. Now 6 months have passed. I hope by posting this, I'm making the first step and will have the confidence to get the help I need. Thanks for listening.
- Started by Anonymous on Oct 09, 2019
Hi everyone! I just wanted to post this to find out if anyone else had similar experiences. Before I was pregnant I had mild anxiety both general and social which I was able to manage myself with CBT and lifestyle management. Last year I found out I was pregnant which came as a huge surprise as I had just started a new job and was in my mid 20s. I didn’t feel that I had much support or reassurance from the medical end of things or from my family/partner and for the initial few weeks I spend a lot of time feeling lonely, isolated, panicked, withdrawn and in the evening times in bed. I felt a great deal of jugement and guilt and didn’t tell a lot of people about the pregnancy until I was 5/6 months pregnant, some family members found it hard to accept and some never spoke to me about it. I moved into a new house around this time and found it very difficult to adjust to living with my partner due to his lack of understanding with the pregnancy and help with the housework. He worked long hours and I was at home a lot at weekends and evenings on my own. I became more fretful about the labour and had a deep sense of dread about all the things that could go wrong and about dying. The birth was good in all respects but I became unwell shortly afterwards and was hospitalised for 4 days with a medical complication and surgery afterwards . which resulted in not being able to mind the baby for a month. In all this time I became resentful and controlling of my partner and that he was unsympathetic towards me, the time he spent outside the home at work and I was constantly fighting and calling him to see where he was and to request him home. We would fight over small things and I would become mad over insignificant events. I would start arguments and looking back now I can see that this has created a huge strain on the relationship. At present I feel a great sense of guilt as I love my baby so much, I have a feeling that others are judging me, feeling like I have to struggle on, have racing thoughts and I am nearly waiting on the next “bad” thing to happen. I feel like it will be hard to get our relationship back and my partner never suggests doing things together anymore. I feel so anxious about the future and I am afraid of becoming sick again. My GP is not very helpful and I am not sure of where to go next. Thanks for listening x
- Started by Kellie on Apr 15, 2016
Hey everyone, looking for a bit of help/advice from anyone who has gone through Post Natal Depression. I had my baby 5 months ago, everything from my pregnancy to birth was a breeze. Yet in the last few months I have been suffering terribly from Post Natal Depression. I feel so lost and alone, even though I have so much support around me. My partner contacted a doctor/public health nurse months ago at the 1st sign that there was something wrong, but I wouldn't attend as I didn't want to believe anything was wrong. Myself and my partner began to fight an awful lot, I became controlling, jealous, angry, anxious, insecure, the list goes on, to the point where he couldn't take it any longer and left. Now I feel so much more alone. It's killing the both of us to be apart. I have made an appointment with a doctor and I cannot wait to go. How long does it take to start feeling better? I need to get my relationship and family back if it's not too late. It's a horrible illness and my heart goes out to anybody else feeling this way x