- Started by Ciara on May 10, 2019
I had my baby girl 2 weeks ago tomorrow I know it's a very short time but I just feel like, i have been to my GP and the mental health team here in cork but I just feel so broken I don't know how I'm going to look after my baby I feel that she would be better off without me that I can't bond with her. I keep thinking things won't get better at all and that I will be stuck like this and fail as a mother
- Started by Lost on May 05, 2019
My boy is 10 months and I’m miserable a lot. He has never been a sleeper, although he has improved he still wakes 2-3 times a night. We had about 3 weeks of sleeping through although he still woke at 5am but then he got sick. He doesn’t eat just wakes whinging. Then he’s up for the day at 5am. Naps are a fight and he will only sleep in his pushchair. I should add aside from that he is the sweetest happiest little boy. I on the other hand am crumbling. I had my boy abroad and after a difficult birth struggled. I put it down to the blues. Before my boy arrived my father in law died and why baby was 6 months we decided to move back to Ireland. Needless to say we’ve had a lot of change and it’s taking its toll. Some days I don’t want to wake up as everything feels so hard. I have no friends, don’t go out at night and do very little for myself. I look at friends who are so chilled and I seem to spend all my time trying to put him asleep, whilst their babies sleep away. With all the stress my marriage is falling apart. My husband tries so hard but he is struggling so much too. I don’t know where to start, there are no meetings near me and I don’t feel close enough to my gp to speak to him. I love my son and do everything with him but I miss my old life and then feel guilty. My family are lovely but they just don’t get it and keep telling me to chill out.
- Started by Anonymous on Jul 10, 2017
Hi, my baby is 8 months now and I just feel so bad I can't even explain it its just bad I feel bad and empty all the time. Everyone just calls me a moan and a crank but I just have the urge to rip clumps form my hair and smash my head against a wall ( I don't actually go through with it) I havnt told anyone how I'm feeling and nobody ever asks. If they did I know I'd break down in front of them. My partner has found me crying in the dark a few times but he just believes me when I say I just read a sad story and leaves me to it. I've no ill feelings towards my baby I love the bones off her so that's why I'm afraid to say out loud I have pnd incase it ever gets used against me ( not that it would it's just what I think) i would happily tell a doctor and take tablets but would the tablets turn me into a zombi? I don't want that but I don't want these feelings anymore :( I can't afford counselling
- Started by Jenny on Apr 21, 2019
I'm a first time mum to a little girl who is 8 weeks old . I love every bone in her little body but unfortunately I have been suffering very badly with PND lately . I am due to see a mental health team soon but I just feel it is getting worse and I've been having a million different thoughts lately . Can other first time mum's let me know if they have experienced this and does it really get better .
- Started by Anonymous on Dec 17, 2017
anyone know of support groups in Louth
- Started by Anonymous on Nov 21, 2017
My baby lost 13% weightloss in 5 days, i was trying to exclusively breast feed, she was then hospitalised. I keep thinking it was my fault, i didnt wake her enough to feed( she was a slwepy baby) or was i to tired i slept through the cries. its all such a mess in my head now. I keep remembering certain times when perhaps i didnt do the right thing. Im not sure if im tainting the truth in my head or not. I just keep thinking about it in my head & cry & cry at the thought i could have starved her. At hospital she did gain some weight they fed her through my expressed breast milk, but then used Formula as i couldn't express enough for demand. She did put on weight and would feed at the bottle. Im angry at myself as well for not knowing enough when she wouldn't feed at home. Why didn't i know i could express and why didnt i have a good breast pump. Why didn't i give her formula when she wasnt feeding - although these are all things i know i could do now i didn't know at the time nor did i think she would take a bottle if she didn't take the breast. I now know that not to be true. When we got home i still couldnt get her to latch so we stuck with the formula. A few days later we were back in hospital and found out she had an extreamly serious virus. When she got the correct medication she completly changed however by then my milk was drying up and as much as i tried it never fully returned. If the virus meant she wasnt feeding im not sure. either way i cant help to keep going over and over in my head if the reason she lost so much weight is my fault
- Started by J2019 on Apr 05, 2019
Hi just wondering if anyone else has experience like mine. I’m 13 weeks postpartum living abroad so away from family and friends. Feeling really down, emotional and even angry all the time. I’m so anxious all the time and can’t sleep properly no matter how tired I am. I love my baby but sometimes I wonder if my baby and husband would be better off without me. Everyone says use your motherly instincts but being honest sometimes I really don’t know what to do. My husband’s family have never accepted me and really made it very clear since our baby was born (it’s our first) that they only came to see the baby and my husband and were really rude to me. I’ve never done anything bad to them but it hurts now more than ever not that they don’t like but that they’ll never accept me. They’ve done some nasty things to me regarding our wedding beforehand and I really thought all this would be a fresh start if that makes sense? I feel terrible cause this upsets me so much more since I gave birth and it effects my husband. I finally went to my gp when I realised my feelings were not clearing up after a few weeks, she told me it’s common and sometimes due to hormonal changes. What can I do to treat this? She referred me to a psychologist so I can have someone to confide in and it helps a bit. I just feel so shitty and guilty cause I know there are so many people who are in horrible situations with terrible problems. I’m due to go back to work but I just can’t cope with it, I have to go see the company dr and I’m so nervous that yet again another person will judge me and think I’m so ungrateful for what I have and force me to go back to work. I can barely cope with being a mother
- Started by Cathy on Mar 07, 2019
My baby is 3 months and I love her to bits but I cant believe how hard it is being a first time Mum. I am so anxious all the time feel I haven't slept for weeks. I am so lonely, thought minding a baby be easy, all my friends are working, no family close bye.She isnt a great feeder so seems to take for ever, think I worst Mum in world, please tell me it will get better?
- Started by Cindy Lund on Feb 04, 2016
Hi I was diagnosed with PND immediately after the birth of my first child 14 years ago. I felt like my world had been turned upside down. I became extremely anxious, couldn't sleep at all and felt completely overwhelmed. My doctor gave me medication which didn't help at all, then I was referred to the local psychiatric unit and was told more or less to 'pull myself together'. That was it. I did find some relief eventually when referred to a private psychiatrist who changed my meds but they worked for a while then stopped. Basically I soon realised that the birth had triggered a lot of issues for me which I had never dealt with. I have been working on them since - it's been hard but with the help of homeopathy and counselling together I am a much happier, healthier person now than I was before I had children. It is an ongoing journey and not easy. We all have to find our own way but support is essential and I really feel that more support groups are vital. I lived an hour from Cork at the time and in the state I was in just couldn't get to the meetings. A local meeting would have been brilliant. I am interested in setting up a group in south Galway where I now live and work as a healer and artist. I am no longer anxious or depressed but I still have some sleep issues. For all those who are struggling with this I empathise. It is awful. You feel guilty for not being over the moon about your beautiful child. But be kind to yourself. Parenting opens a real Pandora's box. It shows up all your doubts and fears, all your weaknesses as well as your strengths. But this is a positive thing because it gives you an insight into stuff you may need to deal with - we all have it but tend to ignore it until a crisis, trauma or stressful situation like becoming a parent brings it up. My sincere hope is that more support groups countrywide are set up and that awareness of all the options for healing (and there are many, apart from meds) is increased. If anyone needs to talk I would be very happy to share my experience. There is hope and you will get through this.